Mother’s Day is not just about me

Have you ever felt let down on Mother’s Day?

I rarely have, but as I reflect on past Mother’s Days, I am embarrassed to admit that there have been a few where I felt disappointed (mostly when my children were very young!) because my unrealistically high expectations weren’t met and I ended up feeling unappreciated and sad.

In hindsight, I feel silly for being so selfish, because whether or not everything is perfect on Mother’s Day, I am truly one of the lucky ones all year round. I have a wonderful mother who I admire and love and two incredible children who love me–all here and fully present.

Not everyone has this luxury. There are many who don’t have a mom here on this earth; those who have lost a child(ren); single moms who don’t have another parent to support them in making the day meaningful; moms who are struggling to make ends meet and can’t even take the day off work; moms separated from their children due to distance; families estranged from each other; and those who desperately want to become a mother, but can’t find a partner or are battling infertility.

Practical ways to check-in on those around us

This Mother’s Day, I am reminded to not only celebrate my family and loved ones, but also to check-in on and extend love and support to those who are less fortunate.

Some practical ways I have thought to do so are:

• Words of encouragement and support via a letter or card.

• Offering to babysit to facilitate some rest/time away.

• Making donations in their name for a cause they care about.

• A gift basket or care package.

• Arranging to meet-up for a coffee/drink/walk/chat, etc.

• Simply picking up the phone or texting to let them know that I care.

Mother's Day is a time to celebrate the incredibly strong women in our lives, and also to recognise those who may be going through difficult times or find the holiday bittersweet.

Even a small act of thoughtfulness and compassion can make a world of difference and let someone know that they are not alone.